Well, I know I am almost 15 and a half months late in writing this but I guess I had to go through all that in order to be able to write this!
My daughter was a premature baby and I was most definitely not expecting her to come out so soon. But she did and was almost a month and a half early. She was so little and fragile that she hardly cried as she did not have the energy to scream her lungs out like other babies.
My husband was not supposed to see her for 27 days because of some superstitious reason and poor fellow! Must have had a hard time!
I spent sleepless nights looking after my baby for weeks. Even after the father-daughter union, I used to be on my toes in order to get everything done for that little princess who was born out of me. Changing her diaper, feeding her my bosom and making sure she was comfortable. My mother in law says that if I stay along with her at my husband's native place, perhaps i can take better care of my daughter, but I believe, every mom is actually a single mom at the end of the day. Whether the baby cries, wants to eat or has done a lump sum of a potty, it is the mother who is called for. This single mom has to be a mom even to her baby husband at times.
My daughter has finally stood on her feet and has learnt to walk(all by herself, mind you!), yet she comes running towards her MOM for anything she needs. The entire family falls asleep but this poor me stays awake until this baby falls asleep.
And by the way, I did not have to stay with the baby's grandparents for her to learn all that she has learnt. Ugh!
My point is that the baby is given so much importance. What she needs, what she does not. Is she comfortable or does she need change of diaper, and so on and so forth. A new mother needs care and compassion. She is not in need of your sympathy but a little concern can give her that strength to go through the pain she has been through. She has brought new life into this world and her body has been undergoing a lot of changes so why don't we give a little attention to her needs as well!
A woman can make a difference for another woman, so why can't husband's mothers take this initiative. A little care and attention can prevent something called a Postpartum Depression of whose victim I have been and I have no shame in accepting it.
To be contd....
My daughter was a premature baby and I was most definitely not expecting her to come out so soon. But she did and was almost a month and a half early. She was so little and fragile that she hardly cried as she did not have the energy to scream her lungs out like other babies.
My husband was not supposed to see her for 27 days because of some superstitious reason and poor fellow! Must have had a hard time!
I spent sleepless nights looking after my baby for weeks. Even after the father-daughter union, I used to be on my toes in order to get everything done for that little princess who was born out of me. Changing her diaper, feeding her my bosom and making sure she was comfortable. My mother in law says that if I stay along with her at my husband's native place, perhaps i can take better care of my daughter, but I believe, every mom is actually a single mom at the end of the day. Whether the baby cries, wants to eat or has done a lump sum of a potty, it is the mother who is called for. This single mom has to be a mom even to her baby husband at times.
My daughter has finally stood on her feet and has learnt to walk(all by herself, mind you!), yet she comes running towards her MOM for anything she needs. The entire family falls asleep but this poor me stays awake until this baby falls asleep.
And by the way, I did not have to stay with the baby's grandparents for her to learn all that she has learnt. Ugh!
My point is that the baby is given so much importance. What she needs, what she does not. Is she comfortable or does she need change of diaper, and so on and so forth. A new mother needs care and compassion. She is not in need of your sympathy but a little concern can give her that strength to go through the pain she has been through. She has brought new life into this world and her body has been undergoing a lot of changes so why don't we give a little attention to her needs as well!
A woman can make a difference for another woman, so why can't husband's mothers take this initiative. A little care and attention can prevent something called a Postpartum Depression of whose victim I have been and I have no shame in accepting it.
To be contd....
50% agree, 50% not. You could be wrong to become single mother and not have older person experiences in place, just because of extra work or care of older parents. We many time, think in way to suit or relax ourself and forget to learn from exp. In industry, always experience person are paid more than enthusiastic young blood. So it's on you to learn as new baby grows or take advantages of parents and add you inputs to make child ahead of other single mothers.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your reply dear friend! Every mind has its own thought process and views. I penned down mine and it is not necessary they may be true to everyone!
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