Being Judge-mental - Our Society's favorite hobby!

I don't judge a person by their looks, complexion, appearance, clothes, education or job status. I don't. There is no point to do so. The reason is "experience". 

I consider myself a good-looking woman despite being over-weight. But I can be at my worst mood of the day and might not be very good to some person I meet. I will be judged as arrogant and proud. Little will that person know or understand as to what I have been going through the day. That person Mr A or Mrs B will blow the horn to almost every person she meets and they all shall have a wrong impression about my character even if they have not met me. And when they meet me, they already have a notion about me in their heads. This is a social process. 

I might have had the best set of clothes in my wardrobe but for some reason, I might not have dressed up well for some appearance. I will be judged as poorly dressed or simply "not-fashionable". 

Have we ever put our feet in that person's shoes and walked a mile to understand what circumstances that person is in or has been going through? The answer if shall be a NO, then how dare we judge that person and come to a conclusion about his character or behaviour?

I am severely ridiculed for being over-weight. I am body-shamed by my own people. Every person whom I meet thinks that I am not health conscious or I over-eat greedily. But only I know about the battle I have been fighting with myself. I cannot plead with everyone every time to not judge me for being over-weight. I understand the issues of being obese and I am trying hard to shed those extra kilos. 

We all are part of a fickle-minded society. We cannot let go of this fact. We all love to gossip and back-biting. I think the real courage lies in speaking the truth in front of that person rather than bitching about him/her behind his/her back. I myself don't inculcate into gossip. I hate to gossip and hate the people who do so. I consider it very inhuman. I personally appreciate those who speak the truth into our eyes. The truth is hard to take in but it is the safest way out. 

None of us is perfect. We all know this fact. And mind you, we cannot judge some person for his deeds as well.

I have been fighting my own battles almost every day.  I did not mingle much with the people around me. I was ridiculed for being an introvert and anti-social so badly that I slowly lost confidence in myself and became an introvert which was definitely not my actual being. I was given lectures to change my attitude otherwise I would die alone. So bad has been my experience in life. I had lost hope and was struggling to survive. 

I don't remember anyone coming up to me and offering help. I was being judged for my behaviour. And that's when I realized that the world will only sympathize with you and you must learn to win your war.

And thus, the battle of depression and being ridiculed is still on.  I found a lot of inner peace after I stopped judging people for no reason. This habit enlightens you with other important things in your life. And yes, tu judgmental hai kya?

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